First up, is Ian Cron and Suzanne Stabile's new release called The Road Back to You, published by Intervarsity Press. If you haven't heard about the enneagram, this book is a great place to start. The enneagram is an ancient personality system that won't put you in a box, but that puts you on a path of learning how to be compassionate with yourself and others. It helps us to see the sin patterns of our personalities. It helps us see how to grow and where we go when we're stressed, angry, or healthy. It's actually been life-changing for our marriage. Because instead of seeing my husband (or he seeing me) as "he's just that way," it's helped me to see that beyond his exterior of having it all figured out and what I see as marching forward unfeelingly, he is a vulnerable, tender person underneath. Then I can learn compassion and empathy. Only then can we grow. There are 9 enneagram numbers. And each number has "wings" where you drift to a number close to your number. You all can psychoanalyze me now, I'm a 4w3, which means I desperately want to be a special snowflake, that my life is characterized by longing, and also because of the 3 wing, I want to be the best at it. So yeah, super intense. What number might you be?
The Road Back to You is a book on the enneagram that shows us how to do the work; it doesn't shy away from our sin and it points us toward spiritual growth. This is a fabulous book if you're looking for an enneagram primer. If you already have read all about the enneagram and even have the app on your phone like I do, this is still a wonderful resource. I love that they have numbered lists about what it's like to be each number and conclude each type with ways to grow spiritually. It's a full resource that doesn't leave you navel-gazing. It helps you to understand yourself and others so that you can grow, not stay boxed in to a type.
Type 1-Perfectionists (Nelson Mandela and Hillary Clinton)
Type 2- Helpers (Mother Teresa and Desmond Tutu)
Type 3- Performers (Taylor Swift and Tiger Woods)
Type 4- Romantics (Vincent Van Gogh and Angelina Jolie)
Type 5- Investigators (Stephen Hawking and Bill Gates)
Type 6- Loyalists (Ellen DeGeneres and George H.W. Bush)
Type 7- Enthusiasts (Mozart and Stephen Colbert)
Type 8- Challengers (Martin Luther King Jr. and Serena Williams)
Type 9-Peacemakers (Pope Francis and Garrison Keillor)