Your performance does not define you. Your exercise routine (or lack thereof) does not define you. Your size, or your shape, or your grades do not define you. The way your toddler has a tantrum in the grocery store in the middle of the freezer section does not define you. Your spouse feeling disconnected from you does not define you. All of this stuff does not define you.You're not getting a report card about your worth as a human being based on your performance. So rest easy, friend. We can take the time and space to peel back layers -- to see where we yearn for more stuff, more mental clutter, to make us feel busy and important -- and that does not mean we're failures.
***I went to a ministry retreat once and one of the speakers was talking about the negative self-talk we have as women. To root herself in her identity as a Christian, she needed to remind herself of the ways her body is capable of movement (rather than as an image). She said a phrase that has stuck with me: her "hips got her everywhere she needed to go." They were useful and they didn't need to be perfect to have a purpose. Where do you feel like you need to be perfect to be purposeful? I'm finding that the more I focus on the goal -- from my weight to my creativity -- it all dissipates into streams of self-loathing or self-denial; grace is dammed up and I become tight-fisted and operate out of scarcity. If I don't grab it, what will be left for me? The refrain continues: Me, me, me, me. Where can you start today? What are your metaphorical "hips" that you spend your time down-playing and yet obsess over? What can you let go of and realize the great gift even in it? How can your weaknesses be turned to strength? I'd love for you to comment below, or share over on our Facebook page, because #OperationMinimalism is about uprooting things together so new growth to happen.
***Share your answers below in the comments or on our Facebook page. I'll start.
***Know someone else who needs to join our tribe? Share the love for #OperationMinimalism with others. I made you some pretty things to pin, tweet or share on Facebook below. Don't forget to check out our Pinterest board for inspiration. DM me and I'll add you to it!
***Here are some resources to get you started as we build a tribe together. 1. Subscribe to my newsletter. I'll send along tips as we work through this process together. It's like the inner circle for #OperationMinimalism. 2. Start a Pinterest board for inspiration. Sometimes having a vision of what you want your internal and external spaces to look like can really help motivate us to throwing out things or asking hard questions. Here's mine:
Let's make this a community thing: I need your ideas, too. Message me on Pinterest and I'll add you to the board. It'll be like a huge catch-all for inspiration.
3. Check out some reading:
Sarah Mae's 31 days to Clean -- an ebook that will give you big things to think about alongside daily practical cleaning strategies.
10 Reasons why Minimalism is Growing at Becoming Minimalist4. Tweet about #OperationMinimalism along with me! We can keep each other accountable during challenges, and as we procrastinate about them and check Twitter constantly. [tweetthis]I'm joining #OperationMinimalism. Will you join? Put meaning back into the everyday.[/tweetthis] HOMEWORK: Start something, anything, to get you thinking. Read some of the articles above; hang out with the hashtag #OperationMinimalism on Twitter, or get a head start and throw away some stuff! I hope you'll join me in this crazy adventure! Come find me on Twitter and let's link arms and commit to bravely facing those things which hold us back from living simply and simply living.
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